Virginity... and all that sort of nonsense....
My roommate and I were having a serious discussion this week.
Seriously, when we were 18, 19, even 20, we were totally OK with the idea of no sex. Not that we all didn't talk about it 24-7, but we were OK with the idea of waiting.
But this situation is getting completely out of hand. We're 22, 23 and 24 and you know...
When some of my friends tell me they don't care, or that the lack of sex doesn't bother them, I always blink a little.
There are days where I seriously want to just propostion any guy on the train.
This situation is killing me. For god's sake, what am I- the eternal virgin?
I swear- I seriously don't know how much longer I can deal with this. It's not just guys who have needs.
Cold shower, here I come.
posted by Rachel at
5:21 PM
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A person's delight in looking forward to and hoping for some particular satisfaction is a part of the pleasure flowing out of it, enjoyed in advance. But this is afterward deducted, for the more we look forward to anything the less we enjoy it when it comes.
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Anonymous, at 6:24 PM
Very true...
Well let me have my fun!
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Rachel, at 10:03 PM
I feel your pain...
Good luck with whatever your choice is.
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Jacob Da Jew, at 9:30 AM
I hear you...
I was a really "good boy" before I got married... hardly messed around with anyone, and what I did do was pretty high-school stuff, until right before with the then-fiancee.
Since divorce, though, I have a different perspective. Of course, I'm older, too. But after a certain point you stop believing that G-d cares about what two consenting people do with each other. I could be wrong, of course. But we're also human. After a while abstinence for it's own sake begins to seem ridiculously pointless. I'm not talking about going out, getting drunk, and having mindless sex with strangers in a bathroom (although that could be fun!)- I'm talking about a relationship.
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Nice Jewish Guy, at 9:33 AM
I second nice jewish guy's ideas and have a similar view.
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smoo, at 12:57 PM
I agree too, but after a lifetime )or in my case 22 years) of taboos and all sorts of forbidden theories, it becomes nearly impossible to break your way of thinking.
Seriously, if I met someone- I don't think i'd give it a second thought.
I just think that had my life been set up in a way where I knew, and met guys, then there is a chance I wouldn't be single now. KWIM?
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Rachel, at 8:43 PM
It would seem that a simple solution to your problem would be to get married.
If you would consider having sex with the next guy you date, why not marry him? (Have a short engagment.)
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Israel Krasnianski, at 1:07 PM
In life, as you will come to understand, things are not only black and white.
The gray becomes colored and what looked right becomes wrong and the people who slept around are happily married with two kids, and those who thought they were playing by the rules realized that the rules were what messed everything up for them.
At 21 you're young, and you think life is perfect. I'm older, perhaps wiser and more jaded.
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Rachel, at 8:36 PM
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Israel Krasnianski, at 5:48 PM
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